• The Hows and Whys of Chasing Amy

    By Kevin Smith

    The story thus far . . .

    Clerks had been over-praised, Mallrats had been over-bashed. We’d been to both ends of the spectrum. The third time is always supposed to be the charm, so we were able to approach Chasing Amy from a very liberated position: what better could they ever say about us than they did the first time, and what worse could they ever say about us than they did the second?

    And that made it somewhat easy to make an honest film.

    There are these unspeakable, ingrained mistruths men are brought up to believe about sex: We’re dominant, we should go to bed with whores, but wake up with virgins . . . those things that we’re not necessarily taught, but that—thanks to our patriarchal society—still become part of our consciousness, regardless. And in figuring this out, one endeavors to be above such unenlightened outlooks. These poor slobs are called ’90s liberal males, and I counted myself proudly amongst their numbers.

    Until Joey.

    It’s no secret that the origins of Amy resided in my then-relationship with the woman who’d brought the uncompromising, distaff main character of Alyssa Jones so vividly to life—Joey Lauren Adams. Granted, Joey wasn’t gay, and I’ve never fallen in love with a lesbian (well, not that I know of anyway). But the movie did grow out of my initial reaction to Joey’s past (which, in all fairness, wasn’t nearly as salacious as Alyssa’s crafted history; a history which has since—more than likely—prompted many a parent to lock up their teenage daughters).

    They say opposites attract, but they don’t say anything about how opposites can manage to stay together after said attraction fades and the opposites are left facing the fact that they haven’t much in common—a useful bit of info that they never care to share (they usually stink, in my opinion . . . whoever they may be).

    Joey and I were no strangers to that little quandary: I was a guy from Highlands, New Jersey, content to live and die in the same 20-mile radius I’d spent almost all of my life in up to that point. She was from North Little Rock, Arkansas, but you wouldn’t know it. Joey’d done some traveling, living in Australia, Bali, New Orleans, San Diego, and then settled in Los Angeles. I like my gatherings small and intimate; Joey likes hers huge, loud, and loaded with spirits of all varieties. Joey’s into the Salvation Army and the hidden treasures every woman knows lie therein; I’m a Toys-R-Us kid.

    But these were small-time compared to the differences in our sexual history.

    Seemingly, the thorny issue in the romantic career of every young man (or “guy” as we’re called during that awkward period between high school and true adulthood), a partner’s sexual past has a way of ruining an otherwise healthy relationship (well, that’s not entirely true; the past may be the issue, but the guy himself is usually the dork who does the relationship trashing). And being a “guy,” I was no exception—my insecurities always stemmed from the fear of having to measure up to somebody . . . or to a lot of somebodies.

    And that’s where this ’90s liberal male was tripped up. The guy who’d mused over myriad things sexual in his first flick (from sucking one’s own dick to necrophilia) was undone by sex his significant other had had long before she knew he existed. And the day I saw disbelief, outrage, and hurt reflected in the eyes of the woman I loved as she realized I was insisting that she apologize for her life up until the moment we met . . . well, that was the day it struck me that I wasn’t quite as liberal as I fancied myself and instead came to grips with the fact that I was rather conservative. And rather than enter therapy, I decided to exorcise my demons on screen. Chasing Amy was conceived as a sort of penance/valentine for the woman who made me grow up, more or less—a thank-you homage that marked a major milestone in my life, both personally and professionally.

    Watching this film, the viewer can find me in every nook and cranny. The character of Holden is the closest to me I’ve ever written (casting Ben was aesthetically wishful thinking perhaps), and Alyssa is actually my voice of reason that I’d never listen to (I knew what I was doing/feeling was immature, but you just can’t fight City Hall, sometimes). Banky bares the marks of my feelings about allegiance (oh, I hated the kind of friends who’d start dating someone and suddenly disappear—balance, I’d say; constant sex, they’d say), while Hooper voices my thoughts about the politics of the gay community (particularly in the record-store scene). The Jay and Silent Bob scene is always a little eerie to watch, in that it’s very much me having a conversation with my two most popular creations (while returning to them the dignity they were stripped of when I swung them from ceilings and had them chased by Keystonelike cops in Mallrats). This flick, more than the other two, is me on a slab, laid out for the world to see.

    And believe me—that’s scary.

    But aside from that stuff, there are the laughs. I find this flick funnier than my first two. The humor, while often racy, is well-developed (and as much as I love Clerks—I mean, come on: that fucking-the-dead-guy bit was so easy). I was proud of the fact that, even though we’re dealing with a pair of friends again, there is no “straight-man” per se (although using that term in this flick can be dicey)—Ben and Jason bounce off one another equally. And the scene where Banky and Alyssa compare their oral sex scars (à la Jaws) represents, to me, everything that is great about independent film: edgy and smart content that a studio would ax early on in the development stage (and I know whereof I speak—there was a version of this scene in Rats, and the studio made me take it out).

    I love this flick to death. This will always be closest to my heart for reasons obvious and not so obvious. And it makes a hell of a palate-cleanser for the next flick (Dogma). I grew up making this movie, both in craft and in general. I hope it gets you somewhere…preferably in the heart.

9 comments

  • By Jesse
    December 17, 2009
    07:32 PM

    Thanks for writing this man, I just saw the movie again last night. I saw it when it was new back in 97. Its a touching story and rings true for many of us guy's becoming men. Terrific work. It def took me back. As a student of film in school and in life true stories all ways make for the best films, even (especially) with some embellishment I see and feel the humanity and love in this movie. Cheers Jesse
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  • By Kevin
    February 14, 2010
    12:13 PM

    Kevin Smith, you are a d-bag - The Internet
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  • By Mike Petrow
    August 25, 2010
    04:00 PM

    I feel that this film IS indeed a good film. It goes into the emotions that we males deal with - having a cool girlfriend thats perfect except for a couple things. Here it's a lesbian issue, but it is also a sexual past. This past is daunting and off putting. It is something that we cannot truly leave behind until we are mature enough. Kevin Smith writes this very well. The aesthetics have never been Smith's focus, but his honest writing.
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  • By Scott Schiaffo
    March 22, 2011
    01:15 AM

    Thanks Kevin for a fantastic look into this very personal film. Yeah it’s true, I love all of Kevin’s stuff, and of course I am quite partial to say the least. I think he really did hit a home run with Chasing Amy, but hell I loved Mallrats at the gate too, it was John Hughes in a mall in NJ, what’s not to love….and it gave us Jason Lee! So I saw Amy the night it opened in Ridgewood NJ with a packed house of Kevin denizens and it was such a wonderful night. To watch Kevin grow as a film maker over the years has been an awesome experience for me. Having had the supreme good fortune to work with Kevin on his first opus I have since looked on him like a younger cousin who I can both brag about and be proud of! LOL I was so impressed with this young man when we first met I said to myself either he’ll have a huge career or no one will get it, which is usually the fate of many rogue geniuses. Luckily we all got it and Kevin’s still making awesome films for us all. That is until now? I haven’t kept up on the details of what Kevin’s been up to lately but the notion that he’s not going to write and direct anymore saddens me tremendously. All the best to you always sir, Scott Schiaffo
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  • By douglassanders
    May 05, 2011
    12:15 PM

    casey affleck plays little boy? how?he was 20 at the time.
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  • By Olivia Starnes-Zielinsky
    June 24, 2011
    05:11 PM

    When I first started dating my now husband back in college, I had never had a boyfriend or any experience (sexual or otherwise) in a relationship. When the inevitable subject arose, I freaked out. Upon voicing my concerns (i.e. having an anxiety attack just thinking about the girls that came before me), he told me to watch "Chasing Amy". While I may not have totally related to the plight of the "90's liberal male" (as Kevin Smith put it), I completely got the message at the heart of the film. Holden's obsession with Alyssa's past ruined what could have turned out to be a completely normal relationship. This was exactly what I was doing: sabotaging the relationship before it could even get off of the ground over a past that had nothing to do with me and didn't affect our current relationship in any way. "Chasing Amy" made me confront my insecurities and deal with them rather then letting it drive us apart. So Kevin, if you're reading this, it got me right where you wanted it to: in the heart.
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  • By Rick Derris
    July 13, 2011
    12:51 AM

    Thanks for the essay Kevin! You rule - although "Clerks" was not over-praised. I can never say enough regarding how great it was :)
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  • By alan
    November 15, 2011
    07:37 PM

    This movie is terrible. Come on. Kevin Smith doesn't belong in this collection anymore than Michael Bay does.
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  • By systemBuilder
    January 28, 2012
    04:32 AM

    It just seems impossible that you could write a movie about your relationship with a girl you were dating, and in the movie the relationship ends (or at least stalls for 1 year), and that you could then PUT THAT VERY SAME GIRL in the starring role of the movie ... and i read you did it before your relationship had ended? Were you were foreshadowing your own future by making a movie about your own future together?
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